Whenever we feel uncomfortable, disturbing or overwhelming emotions, we tend to have a thought or some image that we attach to what we're feeling.
But it's rare that what we're actually experiencing is as a result of - or is even connected to those 'additional' pieces of information.
Rarely is it about what it appears to be about.
Our responses to a current event are usually coloured by all our previous responses to what we perceive to have been similar events.
We're experiencing people and events as we are, not as they are.